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Senior Center to host Death Café third Fridays starting in January

posted Jan 9, 2018, 10:45 AM by Wayne Wieseler   [ updated Jan 9, 2018, 11:04 AM ]

Beginning Jan. 19, 2018, and continuing monthly on the third Fridays, Sebastopol Area Senior Center will host Death Café from 3:30 p.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Picture this: You’ve been invited to a dinner party. Friends and family sit around the table. The topic arises that a mutual friend has been diagnosed with advanced cancer. Where does the conversation go from there? It might orient to: “What kind of cancer does he/she have?” “What kinds of treatment are they getting?” Most likely it will end with, “It’s sad.”

Death Café was started in 2010 in London by John Underwood and his mother, Sue Barsky Ried, based on the ideas of Bernard Crettaz. The objective was to create a respectful environment for people to talk about death over tea and snacks. In an informal setting, we share our experiences and our questions. It’s not a venue for converting others in our beliefs about death and dying but a place to hear many perspectives and to honor our stories. Since its origination, Death Café’s have spread to over 51 countries and 5400 cafes. Death Café is considered a social franchise.

Death Café will be facilitated by Tess Lorraine, who has been facilitating Death Café Sonoma in Santa Rosa monthly since 2014.

"Increasingly as we age, conversations will happen regarding degenerative and life-threatening diagnoses,” Lorraine said. “The choices we make will have implications about our own quality of life as well as for those who are close to us.

“The cost of denial is that we lose the opportunities for the wisdom, growth, and healing that can occur when we share authentically,” Lorraine said. “Our death is ultimately our final frontier and our lasting legacy."

Wisdom Counts Members, FREE: Non-Members: $5 Day Use Fee. Donations are accepted. Please bring a snack to share.