LGBTQI Elder Resources



Resources and Information

Sonoma County Area Agency on Aging
(707) 565-5950
The Sonoma County Area Agency on Aging (AAA) is a program of the Sonoma County Human Services Department.  The AAA and its Advisory Council plan, coordinate and allocate funding for persons sixty years of age and older in Sonoma County.  The AAA Advisory Council advises the Board of Supervisors on the needs of seniors, adults with disabilities, and their caregivers and advocates on their behalf.  Each year the AAA produces a Sonoma County Senior Resource Guide, a comprehensive directory of services, agencies and programs which assists older persons in their daily lives.  The on-line version contains the most up-to-date information and is available at:

The Sonoma County Area Agency on Aging is committed to creating welcoming and knowledgeable services, programs and systems for LGBTQI people.  The Sonoma County Senior Resource Guide provides an excellent directory of regional organizations, services and programs.  Click for the on-line version.

LGBTQ Connection
(707) 251-9432 ext 205

This organization has discussions groups, no-cost counseling and even a local radio show for LGBTQ seniors.  They have meetings in Santa Rosa and Guerneville.  Please click their calendar for updated times and information, or call (707) 251-9432. Go here to see calendar:

This information was updated in August 2019:

LGBTQI Senior Discussion Group: Guerneville

When: Sat 12:30pm – 2:00pm (Please confirm date & times by calling (707) 251-9432)

Where: 15010 Armstrong Woods Rd, Guerneville, CA 95446

Contact:, or call the center (707-251-9432)

Santa Rosa: Free LGBTQ-friendly Counseling

When: Mon, 1pm – 6pm (Please confirm date & times by calling (707) 251-9432)

Where: 714 Mendocino Ave, Santa Rosa

Every Monday, we are pleased to bring the community an on-site, LGBTQ-friendly counselor/therapist, Den Reno. Den offers several 1-hour appointments every Monday from 1:00-6:00pm. To obtain an appointment you are welcome to email, call the them at (707-583-9169) ahead, or drop-in and sign up for the next available opening that works (often, even same-day). If you are in need but can't make the times, please let us know what works for you and well work to get you what you need. There are no forms and no eligibility, meaning ANYONE who comes through us gets easy, free access. Additionally, Den loves it (and so do we) when folks just come by for advice or to say hello and meet her even if it's not for a full appointment.

Sonoma County - Outbeat Radio

When: Sun , 8pm – 9pm (Please confirm date & times by calling (707) 251-9432)

Where: KRCB (91FM) and streaming live on

Description Outbeat Radio Every Sunday Night 8 p.m. Since 1999 Outbeat Radio has been the Voice of the North Bay's LGBTQ Community. On KRCB (91FM) and streaming live on For more information go to:

LGBTIQ Seniors: Santa Rosa

When: 4th Tue, 1pm – 3pm (Please confirm date & times by calling (707) 251-9432)

Where: Glaser Center, 547 Mendocino Ave, Santa Rosa, CA 95401

Description: Hello, Announcing the next meeting of Santa Rosa LBGTIQ Seniors at the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Santa Rosa, Glaser Center, 547 Mendocino Avenue.

We are a group of Senior LGBTIQs who are building a supportive and caring community. We meet the fourth Tuesday of each month at the Glaser Center at 1:00 pm. We invite participation in whatever way you are comfortable. We hope you choose to join us.
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We The People 
Source for news articles, events and information for LGBTQI individuals.  Includes local, regional, national and international items. 
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Listening for a Change  
4908 Sonoma Highway, Suite B, Santa Rosa, CA 95409
(707) 578-5420
Listening for a Change is creating connections, one story at a time.  Their mission is to promote understanding and acceptance of human diversity through education, oral history and the arts. 

Listening for a Change oversees the LGBTQI Oral History Project of Sonoma County, an ongoing project creating a video oral history program that focuses on reciprocal interviews among the LGBTQI youth and aging populations of Sonoma County.  Sharing stories in these intimate interviews helps to build intergenerational bridges and strengthen our community.  Many of the recorded interviews are available for viewing.
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Our Family Coalition  
(415) 981-1960
San Francisco and North Bay based organization working to advance equity for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer families with children through support, education and advocacy.
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Well Connected, Senior Center Without Walls
(877) 797-7299
Senior Center Without Walls is an award-winning program of COVIA, previously Episcopal Senior Communities, offering activities, education, friendly conversation and an assortment of classes, support groups and presentations to seniors.  Each week, seniors can access over 70 groups by phone or online, all from the comfort of home.  Covia is committed to serving older adults regardless of race, ethnicity, sex, religion, national origin, sexual orientation, gender identity, or other protected classifications.
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Santa Rosa Junior College
(707) 527-4533.
The college's Older Adult Program provides classes of interest to LGBTQI seniors in various Sonoma County locations.
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Health and Wellness

Sonoma Valley LGBT Seniors:  Social group building community. Monthly discussions 3rd Fridays 10am-noon at Vintage House, 264 First Street East in Sonoma.  Also scheduled walks, dances and other social events.  No membership fee.  All ages and abilities welcomed.  For information please contact, Gary "Buz" Hermes (707) 227-6935 or Janice Farrell (415) 608-5792.

Transgender Clinic
(707) 547-2222 for an appointment
The Transgender Clinic is part of Santa Rosa Community Health Centers, located on the Lombardi campus. The clinic serves the health needs of the North Bay's large and diverse gender-variant population and provides comprehensive primary care in addition to evidence-based hormonal management, post-operative care and emotional support for those who are transitioning. Under the guidance of Dr. Suegee Tamar-Mattis, residents have the opportunity to learn transgender medicine and provide family medicine services in a welcoming and open environment.
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Face to Face | ending HIV in Sonoma County 
(707) 544-1581
Provides essential HIV prevention and education services to combat the spread of HIV and practical services to those living with AIV/AIDS in Sonoma County.
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Alcoholics Anonymous, Sonoma County Intergroup Fellowship
(707) 544-1300 Santa Rosa Hotline
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  • Gravenstein Gays
    An open, gay AA meeting sponsored by Sonoma County Intergroup Fellowship.  Meets Wednesdays at 7:00pm at the Sebastopol Area Senior Center, 167 N. High St., Sebastopol, CA, 95472

  • Stein Group
    An open, women’s AA meeting sponsored by Sonoma County Intergroup Fellowship.  Meets Sunday’s at 6:00pm at the Sebastopol Area Senior Center, 167 N. High St., Sebastopol, CA, 95472

Social Groups

OWLS Older Wiser Lesbians 
The OWLs list is a high-volume discussion and support list with over 300 members.  Respect for others is key.  If you are a lesbian over forty and looking for amusement, friendship, connections and inspiration, OWLs is the place. 
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Rainbow Women of Oakmont
(707) 623-9097
Educational, social and community service group for residents of Oakmont Village in Santa Rosa. 

The Billys 
(707) 545-1044
A community of open-hearted gay, bi, queer and trans men throughout the North Bay who gather for monthly potlucks in Sonoma County and join together in Gatherings six times a year in rural venues throughout Northern California.
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Golden Guys
An informal gathering of gay men for an afternoon potluck on the second Sunday of each month.  To receive email or USPS snail mail advisories of the time and location of these monthly events, contact Doug Yule: (707) 827-3664 .


Bay Area Bisexual Network
(415) 865-5627
The Bay Area Bisexual Network’s (BABN) mission is to develop a healthy, vibrant, multicultural bisexual community in the Bay Area and to promote better understanding of bisexual lives and issues within the larger LGBT community and the public. BABN offers information and referral services; cultural & social events; and a monthly peer-support group.
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Bay Area Lawyers for Individual Freedom
(415) 874-3045
BALIF is a Minority Bar Association of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgendered persons and their supporters, with over 500 members including judges, lawyers, legal workers and law students. It is a helpful resource for information about laws affecting the greater LGBT community.
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Community United Against Violence (CUAV)
(415) 777-5500
CUAV’s mission is to prevent and respond to violence against and within our diverse LGBTQ communities. CUAV offers peer-based counseling, direct assistance, education and outreach, grassroots organizing, and policy advocacy. Support groups for LGBT people dealing with violence or abuse.
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Family Caregiver Alliance
(415) 434-3388 or (800) 445-8106
Family Caregiver Alliance (FCA) defines family broadly and inclusively and supports those caring for adults with chronic conditions, like Alzheimer’s, MS and stroke. Along with family consultation, education and respite, FCA’s website provides two LGBT caregiver fact sheets on legal issues and LGBT caregiver concerns. FCA also has a national Online LGBT Caregiver Support Group.
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(415) 729-3996
Gaylesta is a psychotherapist association that provides mental health services, including therapist referrals, education, and consultation. Their referral service provides help in locating an LGBT-friendly therapist near you.
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Horizons Foundation
The Horizons Foundation published a needs assessment for the SF Bay Area. They found an unprecedented Numbers of LGBTQ Seniors. The significant numbers of aging LGBTQ community members represents another demographic shift with implications for community needs and priorities. LGBTQ seniors experience typical aging-related needs in systems (such as health care and nursing homes) that are not prepared to competently and sensitively meet their needs as LGBTQ individuals. They are also particularly vulnerable to losing housing and to becoming socially isolated. Link to the full report below.
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Lavender Seniors of the East Bay
(510) 574-2073 or (510) 574-2090
Lavender Seniors provides social activities, support, and networking for LGBT seniors in the East Bay to improve the quality of life of older LGBT residents of Alameda and Contra Costa Counties. Lavender Seniors also provides outreach, advocacy, and education.
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(415) 296-8995
Openhouse in San Francisco provides housing information, friendly visiting, social get-togethers, workshops, case management, and other services and community programs to support the health and well-being of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender older adults and is building LGBT-friendly affordable housing for LGBT seniors.
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The Spahr Center
(415) 457-2487
The Spahr Center provides services, support, and empowerment for Marin’s LGBTQ community and for everyone in the county living with and affected by HIV. LGBTQ services include youth drop-in groups, a support group for parents with gender questioning and transitioning children, outreach to schools, and counseling for students and families. Mental health counseling is available for LGBTQ people of all ages. Services for LGBT seniors include a monthly discussion group, quarterly friendship luncheons, and a monthly mixer. The Spahr Center also offers cultural competency training for education, health, social service, and housing providers. HIV services include free and confidential HIV and Hepatitis C testing, medical and housing case management, benefits advocacy, mental health counseling, psychiatric evaluation, emergency financial assistance, transportation assistance, a food pantry, a syringe exchange program, NARCAN, a wide variety of support groups and health education in Marin middle and high school classrooms. The Spahr Center also has information about Family Caregiver Support services and a volunteer program that provides weekly, friendly visits to isolated seniors in central Marin County. For more information, call 415 457-2487 at The Spahr Center, 910 Irwin St., San Raphael, CA 94901.
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Transgender Law Center
(415) 865-0176
The Transgender Law Center (TLC) is a civil rights organization advocating for transgender communities. TLC connects transgender people and their families to culturally competent legal services, increases acceptance and enforcement of laws and policies that support California's transgender communities, and works to change laws and systems that fail to incorporate the needs and experiences of transgender people.
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TransGender San Francisco if you are in crisis, or call (877) 565-8860.
TransGender SF is a support and social group for the entire transgender and gender non-conforming community. TGSF educates the public and promotes a positive image of transgendered persons. The transgendered community includes all transgendered persons, their family and friends, and anyone with a sincere interest in the transgender community.
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LGBT National Senior Hotline
1-888-234-7243 Toll-free

Monday thru Friday from 1pm to 9pm, pacific time
Saturday from 9am to 2pm, pacific time

The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) National Senior Hotline provides telephone peer-support, as well as factual information and local resources for our senior community.  No matter where they live, LGBT seniors have a place to call when they need peer-support, information and local resources.  Many times our callers are very isolated, some in the closet or and in need of a caring, non-judgmental person to talk with. 

The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender (LGBT) National Senior Hotline provides seniors the ability to talk with our trained peer-support volunteers about issues including isolation, relationship concerns, bullying, family concerns, HIV/AIDS and much more.

We also provide local senior resource information for cities and towns across the United States. All services are free and confidential. 

GLBT National Help Center
(888) 843-4564 Toll-free Hotline
Free and confidential telephone and internet peer-counseling, information, and local resources for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning callers throughout the United States.
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GLMA Gay and Lesbian Medical Association
(202) 600-8037
GLMA was founded in 1981 to ensure quality, non-judgmental healthcare and to end workplace discrimination for LGBT healthcare professionals. Search for LGBT-friendly health care providers in your area.
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NAGLREP (National Association of Gay & Lesbian Real Estate Professionals)
According to NAGLREP (National Association of Gay & Lesbian Real Estate Professionals), “there remains a major problem in the real estate industry as housing discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity is still not illegal.” Click the link below to learn about LGTBQ housing rights, finding an ally, search for a neighborhood, secure a home loan, and be a part of the conversation.
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NCLR National Center for Lesbian Rights
(415) 392-6257
Located in SF, NCLR is a national nonprofit law firm that protects the legal and human rights of lesbians, gay men and bisexual and transgender people across the United States through impact litigation, public policy advocacy, public education and direct legal services.
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SAGE Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders
(212) 741-2247
Services & Advocacy for GLBT Elders (SAGE) is a national organization that offers supportive services and consumer resources for LGBT older adults and their caregivers, advocates for public policy changes that address the needs of LGBT older people, and provides training for aging providers and LGBT organizations, largely through its National Resource Center on LGBT Aging. SAGE coordinates a network of 27 local SAGE affiliates in 20 states and the District of Columbia.
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National Resource Center on LGBT Aging
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Lambda Legal
Lambda Legal, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit, is a national organization committed to achieving full recognition of the civil rights of lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, transgender people and everyone living with HIV through impact litigation, education and public policy work. 
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Center Link: The Community of LGBT Centers
Founded in 1994, Center Link is a member based coalition to support the development of strong, sustainable LGBT community centers.
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